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DEAR MISS MANNERS:<\/strong> I work in a hospital where I do a lot of filing by the patients\u2019 last names.<\/p>\n

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It is chic now to use two last names, such as \u201cJane Doe Smith\u201d or \u201cJane Doe-Smith.\u201d In those cases, is it filed under D or S?<\/p>\n

People using two last names do not realize the problems they have created.<\/p>\n

GENTLE READER:<\/strong> You will love visiting Spain, which has been using double surnames since the 16th century.<\/p>\n

While Miss Manners is ready to defend the right of people to choose their own names, the filing system belongs to you (or the hospital, anyway). If you are still using paper, you can pick whatever convention you like, even if it is not technically correct \u2014 for example, you might decide that \u201clast name\u201d means \u201canything after the last space.\u201d The patients themselves will never know.<\/p>\n

If you are using electronic systems, all that matters is that the first person who creates the file asks the patient what to put in the \u201clast name\u201d field.<\/p>\n

Next customer!<\/p>\n

DEAR MISS MANNERS<\/strong>: I\u2019ve become lost for words greeting people I interact with on a regular basis \u2014 for example, neighbors and store employees.<\/p>\n

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After greeting them with a smile, I ask them, \u201cHow are you today?\u201d I\u2019m then met with a barrage of things going wrong in their lives, their financial hardships, and many details of illnesses.<\/p>\n

I do have a healthy dose of empathy by nature; however, I\u2019m fed up with the negativity and \u201cwoe is me\u201d attitude. It seems to be getting worse in society as a whole.<\/p>\n

In addition, I\u2019m shocked how self-centered they come off, and I don\u2019t know how to respond. I want to run. Your thoughts?<\/p>\n

GENTLE READER:<\/strong> People have also become stupefyingly literal-minded, as demonstrated by how many people think that \u201cHow do you do?\u201d (or \u201cHow you doin\u2019?\u201d) is an attempt to dig for personal information.<\/p>\n

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Miss Manners wonders if it is time to dispense with that as a casual greeting. In the meantime, you will have to nod politely, say, \u201cI\u2019m so sorry,\u201d and change the subject.<\/p>\n

But she will add, for those who choose not to understand the context in which this answer applies, that you would obviously not respond this way to someone close to you, or with a person expressing an immediate peril.<\/p>\n

DEAR MISS MANNERS<\/strong>: When having guests over for dinner, I am unable to find a gracious way to refuse alcohol to those who will be driving.<\/p>\n

I generally don\u2019t give it as an option when asking what they would like to drink, but they often request a glass of wine nonetheless.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not that I associate with lushes and felons, but I personally would prefer not to serve any alcohol to a designated driver.<\/p>\n

GENTLE READER<\/strong>: The gracious \u2014 and perfectly acceptable \u2014 way is not to serve alcohol to anyone.<\/p>\n

Miss Manners assumes that people are asking because they see it being offered to other guests, a problem that would go away if it was nowhere in evidence. Any other solution, even one motivated by a desire to protect your guests from harm, cannot avoid also looking like an intrusion into personal autonomy and a negative judgment on character.<\/p>\n

Please send your questions to Miss Manners at her website, www.missmanners.com; to her email, gentlereader@missmanners.com; or through postal mail to Miss Manners, Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.<\/em><\/p>\n

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