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DEAR MISS MANNERS<\/strong>: My mother-in-law recently returned from New Zealand bearing gifts for her children and their spouses. Each gift was very well-thought-out and personalized.<\/p>\n

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However, when she got to me, she claimed she\u2019d forgotten my gift in her car and left the house for several minutes, presumably to retrieve it. When she returned, she presented me with a hat and made a big deal that it was \u201chand-knitted with genuine alpaca wool\u201d and \u201cone of a kind.\u201d<\/p>\n

I thanked her for her generosity and the visit moved on.<\/p>\n

The next day, I found a factory-printed tag on the hat stating it was 50% polyester and 50% acrylic. And later that week, I noticed the exact same hat on clearance at a local big box store.<\/p>\n

I was grateful she thought of me, but I\u2019m stumped as to why she would outright lie about something so silly. When I brought it up to my partner, they seemed genuinely uncomfortable, so I didn\u2019t press the issue.<\/p>\n

I am doing my best to move on from this incident and am polite when I must interact with my MIL, but things feel strained. At least on my end.<\/p>\n

The bottom line is I feel hurt and betrayed. And I find myself wondering what else she has lied to me about and whether she will do it again in the future.<\/p>\n

As for the hat, I promptly donated it to charity, as I knew I couldn\u2019t wear it (or even look at it) without rekindling all the negativity and discomfort surrounding the incident.<\/p>\n

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GENTLE READER<\/strong>: Would you rather have her tell you that she forgot you entirely and just grabbed something she bought herself when she got chilly at the mall?<\/p>\n

Miss Manners agrees that it was silly and deceitful for her to have lied. But there is not much to be done about it now.<\/p>\n

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As long as you are polite, you are entitled to be wary and mistrustful of this woman until she gives you reason to believe otherwise. If your partner notices, but continues not to engage, you may say, \u201cI just don\u2019t like to be lied to, but I\u2019m sure she had her reasons.\u201d<\/p>\n

DEAR MISS MANNERS:<\/strong> I go to a doctor\u2019s office that has a residency program, where the docs often try to get patients to accept having a third party in the exam room for training purposes.<\/p>\n

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While I understand the need for this, I am a very private person who also suffers from severe anxiety. It is always optional, but I\u2019ve never been comfortable with it and find it extremely rude when the doc doesn\u2019t ask you first privately whether you are comfortable with having an additional person in the room for your appointment.<\/p>\n

I feel bad enough rejecting the idea, but it\u2019s even more uncomfortable having to say it to the person\u2019s face directly. I usually offer the truth about my anxiety, but is it really necessary? How else could I politely decline?<\/p>\n

GENTLE READER<\/strong>: \u201cThank you, but I would prefer not to,\u201d said as many times as necessary for the doctor to accept it.<\/p>\n

Yes, you may feel like Bartleby the Scrivener, but it is the doctor who put you in this awkward position, not the other way around. And unlike poor Bartleby, you, Miss Manners trusts, will eventually know when to leave.<\/p>\n

Please send your questions to Miss Manners at her website, www.missmanners.com; to her email, gentlereader@missmanners.com; or through postal mail to Miss Manners, Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.<\/em><\/p>\n

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